Family Unit is the heartbeat of the society. As the family goes, so does the nation. Strong families make good communities, and good communities together constitute a great nation. Our families are gifts to us. They are there when things are good, cheering us on through challenges and celebrating achievements together.
Interestingly, families are unique – each with its own culture, value and characteristics shaped by the people within and sometimes the legacies passed down. Which is why you find some unique qualities and resemblances that are not necessarily linked to the DNA shared in some families.
Good families stick together. They go through your challenges with you. They understand you, and are not afraid to tell you the truth. They seem to know you more than anyone else in the world. They could influence your decisions, depending on how close they are to you. They look out for you, and make sacrifices for you. They adapt to accommodate you. Good families are real. They confront you when you are wrong, and forgive you when you miss it. They support each other, making things happen for the other person in the assurance that they are in it together.
It is not a wonder then that the family unit is under attack. With more parents working outside the home and longer hours, there is not much time for family except it is deliberately created. We are getting busier by the day even though there is more technological advancement these days to support with various chores. It would even seem there are less hours in a day, and we have to cram more activities in to survive. The very technology that is intended to make life easier, now encroaches on family time. This should not be the case. We should fight for our families by prioritising our families. Recreating family time will require effort and being deliberate.
Families are to be nurtured if they are to thrive. There should be time for fun, laughter, and happy memories. There will also be times when we make mistakes, hurt each other, but through love we learn to say sorry, forgive each and offer second chances. If most of us were allowed to choose our families, we would have chosen differently. But God reserved the right to chose our families because He knows us and our innermost being; He knows where we will be better equipped for the purpose He has created us for, and plants us in our unique families.
Seven essential ways to keep the family together:
- Making time for each other. Family comes before work and others.
- Praying for each other. The bond of brotherhood is quite strong for agreement prayers. Use this maximally. A three cord bond cannot be easily broken.
- Love unreservedly. A home where love flows is a haven of peace and tranquillity for its inhabitants. Practice agape love at all times – the kind that believes and forgives all things.
- Find a way to be a blessing. Don’t withhold help when it is in your power to support each other.
- Forgive each other. Don’t bear grudges over simple issues. Forgive, forget and move on!
- Respect each other. Do not take each other for granted. The family is a good practice ground for getting on with people in life.
- Eliminate toxicity by believing the best of each other. Whatsoever things are true, just, noble …focus on these (Phillipians 5:8)
Lastly, a family that prays together, stays together. This is because prayer brings everyone together in an act of worship that enhances an environment that is super-charged for miracles. Praying together also facilitates family cohesion and sensitivity to each other’s situation and circumstances. Therefore our prayer for your family is that your family thrives and flourishes to fulfil God’s agenda and purpose! God bless you as you keep the family flag flying.